Toxic Positivity

“Don’t worry! Be Positive” 

Thoughts, to "Be Positive" which are infused to us since our youth; overpower us as well as cripple us. It demands us to be positive all the time. Even when it isn't required and when it is vital for our psychological well-being to depict what our mind is going through.

While in our daily life circumstances, we are approached to be good(positive) which not just negate our actual and authentic feelings and sentiments yet in addition make dissonance. It urges an individual to be quiet about the struggle which he/she is accomplishing for the survival. The individual who is suppressing his feelings to look cool and calm all the time, faces pressure and physiological issue which nobody knows.

As anything done in overabundance, when positivity is utilized to conceal the human experiences, it gets toxic. By forbidding the presence of real emotions, we fall into a condition of refusal and subdued feelings. In all actuality, people are imperfect. We get desirous, furious, and angry. Sometimes life can only level out suck. By pretending that we are positive throughout the day, we keep ourselves distant from getting a veritable human encounter.

At the point when individuals don't focus on negative sentiments, and afterward run over to others as they don't have them, it makes them less relatable. These individuals presumably emit the feeling that they don't have any issues, which the vast majority can intuit isn't the situation. You may discover such an individual irritating or hard to associate with. 

Amidst a furious pandemic and far and wide friendly turmoil, nowadays it can feel as though consoling sayings are unpreventable. Such well-intentioned phrases like “look on the bright side”, “don’t worry” and “everything is fine” can not only harm an individual’s mental health but also makes him feel pathetic about his certain emotion. These phrases give the idea that that there really isn’t a problem that needs to be addressed. Also, urging people to thrive no matter what adversity they face, such as by telling people that they must use enforced time at home during the COVID-19 pandemic to develop new skills or improve their fitness.

It's an appealing conduct in individuals that causes them to appear to be all the more all around adjusted and more well-known with their companions, so there are a ton of reasons individuals need to seem or be positive. It's a difficult situation when individuals are compelled to seem or be positive in circumstances where it's not natural or when there's a difficult that genuinely should be tended to that can't be tended to in the event that you don't manage the way that there is pain or need. We label people who always appear positive or do not share their emotions as being stronger or more likable than others.

So, stop brushing off someone’s concerns by saying, “it could be worse”. Stop expecting people to be normal after the loss of their loved one. Stop asserting after a tragedy that “everything happens for a reason”. Stop expecting your happy child to get over their grief or suffering and focus on the good things in their life. Let the positive people feel normal and live as “real selves”.

AUTHOR: SABA YASMEEN